This is old news now but with a new point.
I got off the Big 3 socials (for the 12th time) in October- in the midst of writing book number two and wanting to build a larger audience.
I’ve been hemming and hawing how on earth I’m going to promote my words and how in the anti-Facebook I’m going to find opportunities to build the “coming soon” suspense for upcoming projects that I’m pouring my heart and soul in to.
I’ve deleted social media before and felt the heaviest of weights lifted from my heart and cloudiest of brain fog cleared from mind but this go around I feel disconnected.
And insecure.
Truthfully, I find myself having regerts.
With each new piece I write I think I should reactivate Facebook…and Instagram…and TikTok. It’s such an easy way to share the news and increase views.
I keep thinking that I should stop fighting the fact that this is our world now. I keep thinking about the fact that people who don’t adapt, perish.
I keep wondering if my efforts to resist social norms are trivial and pointless.
I keep weighing the options. The first being that I go back on social media. Keep feeding the machine and doing what I was doing which was underwhelming in metrics.
Not to mention it increased my anxiety and worsened my obsessive compulsive behaviors. It begged me to constantly refresh notifications to see if what I was posting was resonating in the algorithm. It made my doubt louder and my discouragement bigger.
Also, I have a major/minot moral issue with Meta (and the like). That issue being that it seems to encourage us to treat each other like commodities and I just don’t think we are.
My friend’s list is not a call list.
Not every online interaction is a potential opportunity for growth or income.
We’ve turned ourselves into salesmen when I think what we’re looking for is souls-men.
I think we’re looking to join sacred spaces and we’re forgetting that the most sacred space is where we are when we put our phones down.
So my second option is to keep going. Stay the course. In fact, I myself mumbling those three words on repeat.
Stay. The. Course.
Explore new, more authentic ways to connect. To share. To grow. As a writer and as a human.
My hope in shutting down my socials is that I’m participating in a quiet revolution of sorts. I’m in search of raw ways to authentically connect. To re-learn that it doesn’t begin and end with traditional social media. That I don’t need an app to validate my worth or increase my reach.
I’ve found myself thinking that we get to decide the rules. We don’t have to play by them.
We don’t need to feed the incessant pull to create catchy content that social media facilitates.
We don’t need to give each other more things to consume. We don’t need more options for minute to win it reels while our minds race to absorb the never ending cesspool of information they’re being fed.
We don’t need more avenues for distraction.
We don’t need numbers to be a measurement of our success.
We need to believe that soft ripples matter because over time they have the ability to create big waves.
We need to believe that contributing to the wave is where the success lies. We don’t need to single-handedly be the wave.
We need space to slow down.
We need time to read.
We need intentional moments of content creation and consumption.
We need time for authentic connection.
We need time to people watch and time to listen to our bodies and we need to create space to be present in them.
We need more outlets that allow us to sit in introspection and meditation.
So. In this process, I accidentally created a mantra for 2026.
Stay.the.course.
And because I’m curious what’ll happen if I do, I think I will.
I just wanted to invite you to join me in this quiet rebellion. Where we spend more time reclaiming community and connection through authentic interaction and less time creating content for mindless consumption.
Where we spend less time scrolling newsfeeds and more time wondering and wandering.
Our metrics may be smaller but I truly believe our impact will be bigger.
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